Tears Heal: How to listen to our children

Book Description Tears Heal shares parenting's best-kept secret - a completely new approach to parenting which is based on listening, and allowing children to express their emotions so that they can return to their natural, good, co-operative selves. Product Description One of the most difficult things parents of babies and young children have to deal with are tears. When babies cry, parents shhh, or rock them to try to get them to stop. When toddlers' tantrum parents may distract them, attempt to reason with them, or ignore their crying in the hope it won't last long. It seems natural to judge the success of parenting by how much children cry. Tears Heal will allow readers to discover parenting's biggest paradigm shift, the way they respond to their children's tears. Here parents will learn how to transform their parenting by moving away from stopping feelings, towards listening instead. Tears Heal explains how children's challenging behaviour comes from unheard feelings and how through simple shifts in how we respond to their upsets we can solve our parenting struggles. Tears Heal is warm, and full of empathy for the hard work, and struggles that parents go through. It also has a strong leaning towards helping parents with their own emotions, as they deal with their children's challenging moments. It explains why we find children's feelings hard to handle, because our feelings weren't fully listened to when we were children, and shows how we can nurture and support ourselves so that we can be the parents we want to be. From the Back Cover Discover parenting's biggest paradigm shift Tears heal. We all recognise that we feel better after a good cry, and now scientific research is showing that there are real physiological reasons why crying makes us feel happier and healthier. Yet no matter how comfortable we are with our own tears, we find our children's crying to be one of the most challenging aspects of parenting. When our baby cries or our toddler throws a tantrum we want them to stop as quickly as possible.In this ground-breaking book, Kate Orson shows how, by listening to our child's tears, we can allow them to express their deepest hurts and struggles so that they don't need to demonstrate them through challenging behaviour. Full of practical advice and wise suggestions, Tears Heal will enable you to transform the natural tendency to stop or distract your crying child, and instead begin listening to what their tears really mean. It also highlights how our child's upsets and challenging moments can trigger unconscious memories of our own childhood hurts, and how we can work process those.Allowing our children to fully express themselves through crying, and laughter too, will help to dissolve behaviour challenges and enable them to grow up happy and well-adjusted. And by discovering ways to nurture and support yourself, you can be the parent you want to be. About the Author Kate Orson is a freelance writer, Hand in Hand parenting instructor and mother. Originally from the UK, she now lives in Basel, Switzerland with her husband the author Toni Davidson, and their four-year-old daughter. She teaches Hand in Hand parenting courses, and offers consultations both online and in person. She has had articles published in Juno, The Green Parent and Smallish, as well as online articles for The Elephant Journal and Mothering Matters - a journal for English speakers in Switzerland.